For a person who does not have first-hand experience with the hormonal shifts of a pregnant woman, it can be hard to believe that it will happen. Some pregnant women are irritable, some yell at their partners, while other expectant mothers are just surly. Some may not have any visible hormonal outbursts at all.
I have been lucky personally in that my wife has not had too extreme of an emotional roller coaster while pregnant. She swore at the refrigerator and had a few small hormonal episodes, but nothing too major. Sure, I've gone to bed a few nights and wondered if I would see the light of day, but overall nothing too bad.
That said, I would like to share some admissions from moms and pregnant women about their hormones during pregnancy and things they've said or done to their partners during a hormonally charged state. The answers are from a survey I posted on Yahoo! Answers.
1. Well, I suspected I was pregnant with baby number 2 when I threw a full out tantrum in the middle of the mall because Pretzel Time didn't accept credit cards.... my poor husband was so embarrassed. I've never wanted anything so badly in my life, sure enough, a week later, I got a positive pregnancy test.
2. I yell at him a lot and question everything he does.
3. I cry every time we argue. And sometimes I get mad at him and start an argument when its not necessary. Then I tell him he needs to not argue back so it doesn't upset me and that makes me cry more.
Poor guy! he's so confused...but he understands its my hormones. and when I've calmed down, i explain why.
4. I cant stand the smell of my husband! Every time he is near me I feel sick (he is very clean so it's not a hygiene thing) but he gets pis*ed of because I do everything to stay away from him when he gets home and I don't know how to tell him.
5. Even though he tons of things for me, I STILL yelled at him, and I feel really horrible about it now! I found that if I had problems with other people or just a bad day in general, I took it out on him even though he didn't deserve it.
6. I think that the weird thing that I did was to get absolutely furious at him for not buying a crib and mattress while we were shopping for the (very sane) reason that they would not fit in the car. I basically tearfully accused him of not caring about the baby and not wanting to be ready for the baby. I went on about having done all the planning and all he had to do was to carry the stupid thing out to the car.
He wisely said nothing, let me cry it out, and then said, "C'mon. We have been doing too much. You are tired out."
I then cried even harder while I apologized for being such a silly, selfish, unreasonable beast.
Everyone's experience is different, but expectant fathers should be fully aware that hormones may rear their ugly head at any time during pregnancy. Do keep in mind that pregnancy is a wonderful time and pregnant women are beautiful, so tell her.
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11 comments:
I've been really lucky with my fiance. We're in process of renovating my house and moving her and her two other children out of their apartment right now. Its a lot of stress all the way around. That said, she's been a trooper.
Only once has she started crying and throwing a tantrum. It was pretty shocking as she has been so even keel throughout her pregnancy. Overall, I have no complains about her hormonal behavior.
Hi there.
Glad to hear she's doing well. I have to say that I've been very lucky as well. My wife is usually relatively even keeled to begin with which may account for some of it, it also makes any changes that much more pronounced.
Good luck!
Bill
Great post! Wish it had been around when I was expecting.. about two-and-a-half years ago. Would have definitely made the husband read it! :)
Hi Tanya,
So glad you liked the post. Pregnancy is great, but it definitely has interesting moments for everyone!
Thanks,
Bill
This is so funny! I recognize a lot, I tend to get the same way when I am pregnant.
I am 39 weeks pregnant. today I was sitting with my 4 year old while he listened to a CD his teacher gave him. A certain slow instrumental song came on. Tears welled up in his eyes, his lip began to quiver and he blubbered like some one had just shot Ol' Yeller. I had never seen anything like it. I am slow to move lately, so I could not jump up and comfort him. So I called for him to come to me. He looked so pathetic that it made me cry too. We sat there hugging as we both cried. I still don't know why that song made him cry, but it was clearly the song because as soon as it was over, he pushed me awa and bounced over to play with a stick he found behind the chair. I was left to finish my cry alone.
I told my husband that hamburgers made me happier than he did (so not true!). He was so hurt by this that he started to cry while blowing bubbles for our son. Seeing his lip quiver while blowing bubbles struck my funny bone and I could not stop laughing. I felt like the most evil person ever and I will probably never live it down!
That does sound incredibly evil, but made me laugh as I was reading it! Poor guy!
My fiance and I are really excited about our soon to arrive baby girl, and she has done really well with the pregnancy, however even she hasn't been spared from a little craziness:
"If you would just do what I say, I wouldn't have to pull your hair."
I've noticed my sailor-like ability to string together expletives that have no rhyme or reason-and no business being in the same sentence together as they inevitably just confuse the listener. Needless to say, although I have a perfectly vaild complaint, the intended just doesn't quite get the wisdom I am offering at the top of my lungs....
My girlfriend is 10 weeks pregnant. I have no idea on what to do, but I do know that whatever she needs I will do. The other day I asked her how she was doing and if she needed anything to let me know. She said "You shouldn't worry about the little things"... I didnt know that having a pregnant girlfriend with your baby was considered a "little thing" haha
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